Process

When we have a first appointment we will have a chat about what you would like to achieve through counselling or use counselling for. Some examples might be to process a distressing event, get through a stressful time, manage depression or anxiety, understand yourself better etc.

After this first session you will likely have better a sense of whether I am a useful person for you to work with. Sometimes clients have tried counselling before and have had limited benefits from it. If this is you, I know it may take courage and guts  try again. Those who have used a lot of counselling may have a better grasp of how important a decent fit between counsellor and client can be in supporting acceptance and change.

Counselling can be used in lots of ways; some people are eager to have more skills, ideas and techniques with which to address situations, others are very much seeking a safe place where they can share their experiences and get some relief or support in their stress and distress. Feeling supported and heard by your counsellor is of utmost importance in all cases, and I pay close attention to whether this is your experience.

 

Sometimes clients bring areas to counselling where I am not the most useful person to support them – this is part of counselling ethics that I let clients know this and provide some other options.

Some clients like to have a brief phone conversation before committing to a first appointment – this is fine with me and I do not charge for this.

 

How I practice

I draw on a number of counselling theories in my work, including but not limited to narrative therapy, Rogerian counselling, and cognitive behaviour/skills based approaches.

I am also very influenced by ideas around mindfulness and learning to live in the moment. My experiences in counselling as a practitioner and as a counselling client have left me with the firm belief that a large part of what makes counselling effective is the quality of the relationship between counsellor and client. This is supported by research.1  I am most interested in making sure that you feel respected in the counselling process, and that it works for you.

Is counselling right for you?

Counselling with Life in Progress.co.nz may be right for you if:

  • Depression, anxiety, or issues with food or substances are stopping you having the life you want
  • You want more from your life and your relationships
  • You are looking for a safe place to talk through difficult issues.
  • You want to change self destructive patterns and the way you feel about yourself
  • You’ve tried talking therapy in the past with limited success but are willing to try again
  • You’ve had some great counselling in the past and are wanting some current support.